Are High Value Black Women Like Eboni K. Williams Pricing Themselves Out Of The Market?

Since her remarks regarding her views of “Bus Driving Brothers”, Ms. Eboni K. Williams has sparked a national conversation about a matter that has long been the bane of High Value Black Women trying to find love: That of the idea of not being to find a Black man “on her level”. Of course, this is taken to mean: Formally educated, and holding either a graduate or professional degree; being a White collar professional, earning well into the six figures in after tax income a year; and has upper middle class tastes, preferences and attitudes.

But wait, there’s more! For the above is only a short list of the desired traits Black women like Ms. Williams most desires in a mate. We can further add to the list: Tall, as in, six feet or more (regardless as to the stature of the HVBW in question); reasonably fit in relation to his age (regardless as to the dress size of the HVBW in question); holds the same or at least similar religious and sociopolitical views as Ms. HVBW, and so on; and you can see how landing Mr. Right for the Lady Who Has Everything in contemporary Black America is a daunting task, indeed!

Hence, Iyanla Vanzant’s recourse to popping the “Would you date a bus driver?” question. It is rightly seen as an affront to highly educated and highly accomplished Black women like Ms. Eboni K. – the “Daddy’s Little Girls” Blue Color Brother trope is one that helped to make Tyler Perry both famous AND rich. But given the sheer amount of pushback Ms. Williams endured over the past week or so, it’s clear to this correspondent at least, that it’s time for a fresh take on the whole “Dating Down” conversation that has been roiling in Black America for decades.

But why has there been so much focus on “Bus Driving Brothers” over the past three-plus decades when it comes to educated and accomplished Black women? Why no discussion about their true assortative mating equals – the formally educated and professional Black men?

What has been going on with Black men in the nearly past quarter of a century – since the turn of the 21st century? Have their lives gotten better or worse, since Y2K? Can the actual numbers shed some light to go along with all the heat that’s been going on with Eboni K.’s Bus Driving Brother Controversy? And, most of all: Has Eboni K. Williams – and Black women like her – priced herself out of the High Value Black Man Mating Market? That’s what I aim to find out TODAY on Obsidian Radio!

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